But they enjoyed the process and they worked harder. Look at this slight manipulation.Simply one sentence-"oh you are so smart!" Oh you are working so hard!One sentence lead to this significant difference.In her words-"Emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control.They come to see themselves as in control of their success.Emphasizing natural intelligence takes it out of the child's control,and it provides no good recipe for responding to a failure."Essentially what happens when you focus only on the intelligence,on how smart you are, you are creating the perfectionist schema,as opposed to a schema that focuses on the journey, effort, hard work.She continues-"When you praise kids' in telligence and then they fail,they think they're not smart anymore, and they lose interest in their work.In contrast, kids praised for effort show no impairment and often are energized in the face of difficulty."What a difference just based on these two approaches.Person who is praised for their intelligence creates this schema-either I'm intelligent or I'm not.And I'm afraid of not being intelligent, so I'll choose the easier task.And when I can't do something, it's an attack, it's an insult on my schema, right?