No. 9: From can to want.All right, check this out. 1995 I got my first big paycheck as an actor. I think it was 150 grand.The film I was on was Boys on the Side, and we're shooting in Tucson, Arizona,and I had this sweet little adobe guesthouse on the edge of the Saguaro National Park.The house came with a maid, my first maid. It was awesome.So, I got a friend over one Friday night and we're having a good time,and I'm telling her about how happy I am with my set-up in the house, the maid, especially, the maid.I'm telling her, "Look, this lady, she cleans the place up after I go to work; she washes my clothes, the dishes;puts fresh water by my bed; leaves me cooked meals sometimes; she even presses my jeans!"And my friend, she smiles at me, happy that I'm excited over this,and she says, "Well, that's great Matthew: if you like your jeans pressed."And I kind of looked up at her, my jaw caught hanging open, stuttered a moment,had that dumb ass look you get when you've just been told the truth and you didn't think about it,and it hit me: I hate that line going down the front my jeans! I hate that line!And it was then, for the first time, that I noticed it.I've never thought about not liking that starched line down the front of my jeansbecause I'd never had a maid to iron my jeans before!And since she did, now, for the first time in my life, I just liked it because I could get it.